For others of us, it’s a constant worldview, a general desperation and insecurity underlying every interaction.Either way, it is one of the most important topics here at AOC, and it doesn’t get talked about enough. Let’s get a handle on exactly what neediness is, why it’s so troublesome, and — most importantly — how to address it.In the United States, it’s hard to find beautiful girls that are needy, but this isn’t the case in other cultures such as Brazil and Colombia, where besides for upper-class girls, you often have a pick between needy and desperate only. Dating a needy woman can be very frustrating for men, and the moment they see your first sign of neediness, they´re quick to pull away. Even if your boyfriend is just checking out the Porsche across the street, you freak out, accusing him of ogling other girls. Some guys come to The Art of Charm knowing they’re needy. In fact, I’d say most men who are being needy in a relationship (or in general) don’t know they’re being needy — or how they’re needy, which can be even trickier to spot.And yet neediness is one of those qualities, like insecurity and general awkwardness, that can fester for years, often without anyone diagnosing it, often without the person even realizing it’s there. If he´s unable to respond immediately because he´s teaching, it becomes world war 3. You get upset if a guy pulls back, even if it´s to just breath a little. If he tells you that you´re no longer a 10, then you accept that you´re no longer a 10. If you were doing yoga every after work, you´ll stop doing yoga so you can be with him. If some girlfriends ask you to go with them for a girls´ night out, you can´t decide until after 10 pm because you´re still waiting for his call.
Whatever the particular manifestation, every single guy knows what it feels like to be needy.
Carefully read my list again if you’re still not sure why.
Confident girls are great for a challenging score but not much more.
Here is the problem I’ve had…we go out once (maybe twice) and have a good time. (And yes, this has happened at least three times recently.) I understand liking me and wanting to spend time with me, and hoping that things will go further.
What I don’t understand is why they get so obsessive.